A lot’s changed in a year.
One year ago today, I left my job in the corporate world and came home full time. It was a daring choice for both my husband and I, but I’ve never regretted it. We decided that it was best for me to come home full time, since we hardly ever got to see each other with my 8-5 weekly work schedule and his 10 hour late night shifts with odd weekend days. We didn’t have any days that overlapped where we could spend an entire 24 hours off work together. We also wanted to eventually start a family and we had agreed that I would be a stay at home mom whenever that happened. So, despite a lot of people scratching their heads asking “why?” or “are you pregnant?” or “why do you just do blah, blah, blah instead…?” I came home for good.
A year later, I’m thankful for all the lessons I learned from the business and creative world. I learned a lot of useful skills that I am able to apply anywhere in life, such as time management, organization, prioritization, communication, etc. But I also learned a lot of things about myself and my personality that want to improve. Coming home has allowed me to delve a little deeper into understanding those personality traits that were hurdles in my professional career and work on developing them into strengths.
A year later, I’ve found myself feeling more whole and the most grown up I’ve every felt, despite the fact that I no longer wake up before the crack of dawn, wear heels, grab coffee, and go to meetings or have a desk and an office anymore. My life looks very different now, but I no longer feel stuck in a pressure cooker of time or a hamster wheel spun by someone else’s goals or agendas. I struggled to find a balance between the corporate hamster wheel and my own at home. Being home now, I still have a hamster wheel of tasks that never seem to ever be done (I mean seriously, laundry AGAIN?!), but there’s a sense of empowerment, responsibility, and urgency that I never truly felt at a “real” job. My job at home never ends. I don’t really have weekends or even holidays. There’s always something to do, but it’s also far more fulfilling to pour my energy into my family and my home.
In a year, we’ve learned a lot. The biggest challenge and triumph has been to learn to live on one income. And guess what? We’re still alive! *gasp* Now it’s been no cake walk and we’ve stretched our timeline of adjustment way past what we thought, but we’re ok. We’re not destitute, we’re not poor, we still can pay our bills and keep food on the table. We don’t have big shopping adventures, go see the movies every weekend, or eat out every day. But when you really think about, we didn’t need all of that stuff. We’ve been able to spend more time together, awake! We’re no longer ships passing in the night with only a few mutual hours in the week without the other one working. We’re learning to be content with what we have…
Over a year, we’ve been incredibly blessed! We added Pepper to our home and it feels like she’s always been a part of our family! We’ve been able to spend more quality time with family and friends. God has always provided just what we need, when we need it. We’re both physically, mentally, and emotionally healthier this year than we were last year. We’ve strengthened our marriage and our relationship.
I’ve learned a lot over the past year and I still have a lot to learn, but more than anything, I am so thankful to have the opportunity to stay home full time with my husband. My job has never been more busy or more fulfilling.
I’m looking forward to seeing what the next year holds!
What’s been the most daring life change you’ve done?